(photo P Volker)
Dear Caminoheads,
Ron, our BC from Astorga and Ann posted this text from Naomi Shihab Nye in FB… I knew this text since before, even had it recorded read by a wonderful Dharma teacher, and for a year, I adopted the practice of finding who this “woman” (or man) of the story could be, no matter which situation I was in. This is a great reminder to start that practice once again… Enjoy!
Wandering around the Albuquerque Airport Terminal, after learning my flight had been delayed four hours, I heard an announcement: “If anyone in the vicinity of Gate A-4 understands any Arabic, please come to the gate immediately.” Well — one pauses these days. Gate A-4 was my own gate. I went there.
An older woman in full traditional Palestinian embroidered dress, just like my grandma wore, was crumpled to the floor, wailing. “Help,” said the flight agent. “Talk to her. What is her problem? We told her the flight was going to be late and she did this.”
I stooped to put my arm around the woman and spoke haltingly.
“Shu-dow-a, Shu-bid-uck Habibti? Stani schway, Min fadlick, Shu-bit-se-wee?” The minute she heard any words she knew, however poorly used, she stopped crying. She thought the flight had been cancelled entirely. She needed to be in El Paso for major medical treatment the next day. I said, “No, we’re fine, you’ll get there, just later, who is picking you up? Let’s call him.”
We called her son, I spoke with him in English. I told him I would stay with his mother till we got on the plane and ride next to
her. She talked to him. Then we called her other sons just for the fun of it. Then we called my dad and he and she spoke for a while in Arabic and found out of course they had ten shared friends. Then I thought just for the heck of it why not call some Palestinian poets I know and let them chat with her? This all took up two hours.
She was laughing a lot by then. Telling of her life, patting my knee, answering questions. She had pulled a sack of homemade mamool cookies — little powdered sugar crumbly mounds stuffed with dates and nuts — from her bag — and was offering them to all the women at the gate. To my amazement, not a single woman declined one. It was like a sacrament. The traveler from Argentina, the mom from California, the lovely woman from Laredo — we were all covered with the same powdered sugar. And smiling. There is no better cookie. And then the airline broke out free apple juice from huge coolers and two little girls from our flight ran around serving it and they were covered with powdered sugar, too.
And I noticed my new best friend — by now we were holding hands — had a potted plant poking out of her bag, some medicinal thing, with green furry leaves. Such an old country tradition. Always carry a plant. Always stay rooted to somewhere.
And I looked around that gate of late and weary ones and I thought, This is the world I want to live in. The shared world. Not a single person in that gate — once the crying of confusion stopped— seemed apprehensive about any other person. They took the cookies. I wanted to hug all those other women, too.
This can still happen anywhere. Not everything is lost.
~ Naomi Shihab Nye
Lovely. It’s interesting how sometimes adversity brings out the connectedness of people. Years ago, when we had the 7/7 bombings, I was working in London but living here in Cambridge. After the bombs went off there were no trains from central London to get home. A colleague of mine and I walked about seven miles to the nearest open station for heading north only to be faced with a sea of panicky people.
In the mass, we got talking to two guys who were also trying to head north. We had sweets and biscuits so shared those. They were stressing about another colleague who had gone to try to find a cab. It was a frightening day, but somehow it turned into a nice meeting. There was little likelihood of a train and god only knows what we’d do.
Then one of the guys phone rang. His friend had Miraculously found a black cab abs engaged it to take them north. And to our amazement they asked us to go to. Five of us stuffed into that cab, eating chocolate biscuits with the cabbie and glad to be alive.
They wouldn’t take a penny from us. We got home.
I’ll never forget…